This week's Gem is hot off the press from England. This is from Nicholeen:
While in England I met the Bowler family. They love self-government principles and use them really well, but they have also created another aspect to their family economy that is a lot of fun. I thought you would like to see it. They call it "The Bowler House Cup."
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This week's Gem is a reminder on the 1st Basic Skill: Following Instructions. Specifically, the 5th step of checking back. These are a collection of my thoughts as I have been learning about giving and helping my children to receive instructions.
Now that I have learned about Teaching Self-Government, I am learning how to stop myself from starting power struggles by first recognizing them and then using the 4 Keys of Self-Government to stop them. It is a continual refinement process and I'm still working every day to use my self-government to step back, and stay calm. The first half of self-government is to stop yourself from doing what you don't want to do. The second half is using assertive action to make yourself do what you need to do to get the results that you really want.
How does a healthy adult deal with negative emotions, or teach a child how to deal with those emotions?
In this conference call segment Nicholeen answered the question "What can I do to slow down?" She spoke about Stephen R. Covey's Urgency Addiction:
"It means that you try to make everything so urgent (and) you try to be so efficient, that you stop being effective.”
This Gem teaches about tone. Nicholeen gave this answer on a Conference Call that asked "How did you actually train yourself to be calm?" She talks about looking into their eyes with trust and seeing down into the child's heart. This is an amazing piece and I used it to practice my tone hundreds of times. ~Pennie