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Podcast 22 - War VS Freedom-Based Communication

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it looks like to have free communication and what causes communicative bondage. So many areas of conversation tend to be rooted in an emotional investment in someone or something, and this can be destructive. How can that change? How can we make our communication liberating for all people involved? Listen in for some amazing tips, thoughts, and suggestions!

Podcast 21 - What Motivates People To Change?

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it is that motivates change, in yourself and others. Is your child misbehaving and you wish they'd just be obedient? Do you have habits and behaviors you wish you could change yourself? Nicholeen and Paije talk about 5 steps you can take to help you or someone else be motivated to make a change in their behavior and in their heart.

Podcast 20 - How To Praise Effectively

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss different styles of praise and how praise should be given. Along with tips on how to properly praise anyone in any kind of relationship, they talk about what do to and how to recognize when praise is done wrong, which can happen. How does praise tie into everyday living? Does it actually help a relationship? Do you praise improperly? Listen to find out!

Podcast 19 - Super Successful Schedules For Chores and Children

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the importance of schedules for children of all ages and lay out specifics on what you can do to set up a successful schedule for you and your children. Schedules look different for different ages, at different times of the year, and different schooling systems. What do you do? How do you manage a schedule that's supposed to be stable, but that tends to change often?

Podcast 18 - Focusing The Family Forward

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how to keep your family focused on their future and how it relates and ties into other aspects of life. Tips on achieving this focus are shared and the why of a family vision is brought to light. A focus on the future needs to be tangible, achievable. So, listen in to find out how to make that possible!

Podcast 17 - Good Civil Discourse

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss good civil discourse, what it is, the difference between civil disobedience and destructive behaviors, what it all looks like, and how it affects the family and societal relationships. Not only is the problem discussed, but Nicholeen and Paije share 6 steps that can be taken to achieve good civil discourse. 

Podcast 16 - Healing The Heart Of Your Relationship

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss different problems that commonly arise in any relationship, whether it is romantic or not. These problems can be and are solved through different principles of self-government. Problems from bad communication to entitlement, the principles discussed in this podcast can help you with so many issues you might face!

Podcast 15 - How To Have A Happy Marriage

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss multiple questions that are common concerns and topics of debate among married or soon-to-be married couples. In answer to these questions, 10 key Self-Government skills are presented that help to answer and solve almost all marital questions, concerns, and problems. Do you feel like you struggle appreciating or maintaining a good opinion of your spouse?

Podcast 14 - Criticism Does More Than You Think

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the details and "ins and outs" of criticism. This word isn't liked all that much in today's society. But, why is that, exactly? Why does it have such a negative connotation? Maybe it's because the real meaning of the word "criticism" isn't known or understood. Listen in to learn more about the positive side of criticism and other important lessons and life skills connected to it. 

Podcast 13 - Creating A Loving Family Environment

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what real love looks and feels like in a family setting, how that love can and should be utilized, and the difference and similarities between romantic love and familial love. They touch on what it feels like when the proper love isn't present, along with skills that can be used to bring that proper, deep love into family relationships. 

Podcast 12 - Escaping Emotional Bondage Before It Starts

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the difference between emotional bondage and emotional freedom, what they both look like, what common behaviors are with each, how to recognize and analyze them, and why it's so important to know the difference between the two. 

Podcast 11 - Understanding How Digital Media Affects Our Brain

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss 10 ways that digital media is affecting our brains and, in consequence, our relationships with family and society. During times of increased isolation from physical contact, people tend to turn to screens and media to connect with others or entertain themselves. While there are advantages to technology and the tools we have, there are many downfalls when those tools are used incorrectly.

Podcast 10 - Dating, Courtship, and Boundaries

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the need for boundaries in dating, courting, and romantic relationships. Not everyone knows what things to consider when it comes to setting boundaries, so this podcast sheds some light on a few things that might not have been considered previously. Also, a few fun personal stories from the lives of Nicholeen and Paije!

Podcast 09 - The Best Daily Schedule

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discover some of the struggles that arise and are present when trying to make and keep a daily schedule. Paije relates to this in many ways, which makes it possible for her to add some insight on how to overcome scheduling challenges and roadblocks. There are so many things that get in the way, but so many skills that can help aleviate the stress of scheduling!

Podcast 08 - Stopping Negative Attention Seeking

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what negative attention seeking looks like in younger children and in adults. What do you do when a child is purposely naughty to get your attention? Or when a friend of yours is passive-aggresive and degrading about a certain aspect of their life? Take a listen to find out the skills you can use to help your friends and family stop seeking negative attention. 

Podcast 07 - Teaching Kids Responsibility Like A Champ

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss some of the problems parents have seen with the lack of responsibility their children have, what those issues could look like in your own home, and some of the solutions for parents to help their children (and themselves) assume and take on more responsibility. It's part of the natural growing and learning process. 

Podcast 06 - Family Culture Shift

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije talk about the history of the word "culture" and why it's so important to have a strong family culture. There are so many aspects to consider when wanting to strengthen and improve your family environment and traditions. Take a listen to know what they are!

Podcast 05 - When Children Put Up Walls

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what happens when children, or anyone of any age, puts up a "wall." Is it normal? Is it the child's fault or the parents' fault? Or is it both? What causes someone to put up an emotional wall and not open up?

Podcast 04 - Calmness Coaching 101

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what it looks like when someone isn't calm, what calmness really is, why calm people and behaviors are becoming more and more socially unacceptable, and 7 steps to help you achieve your own calmness, no matter your age!

Podcast 03 - Open Communication

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the importance of having open communication in all different relationships and areas of life, what actual open communication sounds like, and how to achieve it with your friends, roommates, spouses, children, and anyone else!


Podcast 02: Chilling With The Children

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss components of any good relationship, the concept of TIME (along with the many aspects that come along with time), love languages, the difference between quality time and quantity of time, and share some fun family stories. 


Podcast 01: Creating Confidence

Nicholeen explains the nature, history, and intent of her podcasts and introduces her oldest daughter, Paije, to her listening audience. Nicholeen and Paije discuss the topic of confidence and how it applies to and appears in children and adults and what the opposite of confidence is.

Podcast 00 - Introduction And Pre-Teach

Nicholeen pre-teaches about some things that have been improved since the first few podcasts and gives and introduction to herself and her daughter, Paije. What are these podcasts for? Let them tell you all about it in this short introduction to the Teaching Self-Government Podcast. 

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