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Conference Call 4-15-11

Nicholeen shares some stories about the importance of having a vision for you and your children.  She is often contacted by individuals who have see in the BBC show.  She tells about a girl who is lost and not sure what to do with her life and is considering apprenticing as a piercing person.  

  • What if your child (or teenager) doesn’t care about the family vision or says it is stupid?  That’s what seems to be happening with one of our kids. Nicholeen shares 5 ideas about vision.
  • I have a question about the content of vision. Would it be bad to make our family being in the rodeo as part of our vision? Or do I just change the vision if my children's interests change.
  • 7 year old not calm after rule of 3 and needs to be taken out of the room. I can't take him due to back it sends me into panic mode. He doesn't like to be taken there. But he is attention seeking with the tantrum. 5 second rule. Power struggle mode. Soft hold. Exception to rule. Be intuitive. Special moment, counseling session. I noticed good. I noticed every so often you arent happy. I decided in order to help you be happy to do a soft hold. You are in bondage to your emotions and I am going to free you.
  • Help!  I need advice as soon as possible.  We just found out that our 17 year old has been drinking he was twice the legal limit and has been smoking 4 cigerettes per day.  He needs to go to detox and a smoking cessation program.  What do we do?
  • My 17 year old daughter makes mountains out of mole holes in regards to computer time and her social life. She will get really upset.  She's is a really good girl and the extreme is that she recently started cutting herself. Part of it is my fault since we really don't have a structure in place for.  

Consequences

My kids are really hard workers (At least I've taught them one thing right!) so they are not bothered at all by doing an extra job or even doing jobs for one hour or all day.  It's not their favorite thing to... more

Mom's hang-up

"Thanks so much for all the wisdom and inspiration you share.  I have a son (age 11) who zapps so much emotional energy from me.  Over the last several months, I've really been trying to see things as they ar... more
boy cleaning room

Cleaning a Bedroom

How do you find a good consequence for a thre-year-old who won't participate in cleaning a shared bedroom? This mother explained to me of her struggle with this issue. This is the advice I gave her. ... more
teenage boy on bed

Using The Bedroom As A Consequence

How does 24 hours loss of privileges work in your house?  Let's say a 13 year old boy doesn't want to get on board. But he shouldn't be allowed to just hole up in his room away from the rest of the family!... more
Little boy folding his arms and sulking

When To Give Consequences And Do Corrections

When and how do you give consequences?  For example, if you instruct your son to go clean his room (assuming you've prepped him for accepting a consequence) and he whines and says, "I don't want to do it... more
Son won't listen to his parents

Establishing Consequences

"...We taught the 4 basic skills and the kids had a lot of fun role-playing the way to respond to the different situations, they especially loved disagreeing appropriately! :)  Well, I hadn't determined what... more
Girl in doorway

The Times We Live In Part 2

"My husband works at a jail and just a few weeks ago a man we both know from school and church was brought in on sexual charges. His niece was supposedly the victim. Both of us were very surprised, as we wouldn... more

Adult Chore Chart?

A reader loves the chore chart we have for our children and wants to try it, but also wants to know if we have a chore chart for us, the adults. ... more
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